Looking back, it's obvious now that a lot of the best friendships I made were with other guys into bikes. Like lots of guys now figuring things out (see Related Link below), -lots of my friendships went way beyond what most people presumed. Being BI(ambi)sexual (& keeping my luv for other dudes a secret), I had the best of both worlds. What I discovered was that lots of guys weren't opposed to being just as close to me as I wanted to be to them! Surprised?
Nobody identified with "gay" & because we were into motorcycles & the mindsets that go along with riding, getting licensed & hanging out with other bikers, -we rarely ever ran across milquetoast or effeminate guys. And, no guy I was ever tender on was the sort who wanted anything to do with butt-phukk'n anyone! Here's the irony: Lots of guys were into women. Yeah, duh: Lots of sh1t-talk! However, Building friendships over several years; -I learned that lots of those same guys had mixed feelings for guys they admired & respected. It turns out that almost 70% of guys feel these same things, but (because such feelings are often hidden) everybody thinks that "it must be only them"! And the fear that kept everyone on the downlow was the concern of being called a "phag". The real difference is having a total attitude of respect towards the masculine image of yourself & your buddies. "Gay" is a cuss'n term because the loud queeny images of the dude who looks/acts like a lady being a total loser at respecting the masculine image. As a BI-guy (g0y), I'll tell you that lov'n another guy has noth'n to do with anyone wanting to play the "b1tch". Guys lov'n on guys works when it's totally respect-based & neither is assk'd to stop being a guy -even for a second. Phags, on the other hand - either want to be a chick or treat another guy that way!
Both mindsets combine sexuality, -but the form, attitude & respect levels are as different as gold is from pyrite!
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